#939 Arguments and Compassion
May 11, 2025Dear Dr. Craig:
For nearly 20 years ago I have ruminated on a personal experience I had with you and your wonderful wife, Jan, in San Francisco.
In an act of kindness, you agreed to have dinner with me during a theology conference you were attending. I was (and remain) an atheist and a perpetual part-time philosophy student with an interest in Christianity. I also was (and remain) a philosophical nobody. Even so, you took the time for me, one on one, with Jan sitting with us. I still appreciate that.
Before we dug into the apologetic issues, the three of us chatted about personal matters, and I told you that I was going through a difficult time in my life. I am quite certain I exuded sadness that night.
You and I then got into my reasons for doubt about Christianity. We discussed Molinism, the truth status of free will counterfactuals, and other issues that I felt were problems for your religion. You answered my questions in your brilliant and articulate way, and also reminded me that the evidence available to us only takes us so for; it does not compel belief.
Jan did not say a word, but she was very attentive, and she seemed to me to be feeling compassion and care towards me.
You and I had a great discussion. After dinner we walked out the door to say goodbye. I noticed that despite your intellectual and scholarly superiority over me, our discussion had left me feeling more comfortable with my doubts about Christianity. I was actually less favorably disposed towards it than I had been before dinner. (This was in no way due to some failure on your part. Your position had problematic issues that you were stuck with. Not your fault.)
But then something happened that I will never forget. You and I shook hands out on the street, and as I reached to shake Jan’s hand, she gave me a warm and loving hug, and said something soothing to me. (I don’t remember what.)
At that moment I was overcome with a feeling of being seen and cared about. I also felt gently comforted in my sadness.
And, here’s the wild part. I instantly felt much more open to becoming a Christian. Suddenly those bothersome issues about counterfactuals, middle knowledge, modality, blah blah blah, seemed dry, one-dimensional, and distant. (Hume’s backgammon comes to mind.) That small gesture of love raised my conversion prospects far more than your able responses to my intellectual doubts.
To put it simply, one hug did more to open my heart to Christianity than two PhDs did! 😊
Even so, and for better or worse, I have long distrusted belief-formation processes that rely significantly on feelings. So I remained a skeptic.
Now, here’s my question(s).
Would it have been epistemically responsible for me to get down on my knees in that moment and accept Jesus? My heart was suddenly open, and I could have set aside my distrust of feelings and walked the aisle.
What would have been your reaction had I responded to Jan with “Despite my firm conviction that my reasons for doubt are more plausible than your husband’s reasons for belief, please lead me now in the sinner’s prayer"?
More generally, how should skeptics and believers alike balance emotional and intellectual impulses as we form (and update) our beliefs about the truth or falsity of Christianity?
Personally, I cannot see myself ever being a Christian without suppressing my intellectual doubts. But that seems to me the only conversion option available. Why should I not think that?
Thanks again for the rich evening in San Francisco, and I hope I get to hear your response to my inquiry. Please give my love to Jan.
Steve
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Dr. craig’s response
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Oh, Steve, I was so overwhelmed to read your letter! I was both humbled and thrilled at what you had to say, humbled—or, perhaps, humiliated—because my arguments proved to be so utterly ineffectual in persuading you (to think that you were actually less disposed towards Christian belief after talking to me!), and yet at the same time thrilled because of the way Jan’s simple act of compassion touched your heart.
I have a related story of my own to tell that you’ll find interesting. Shortly before his demise, Ravi Zacharias and his wife Margie invited Jan and me to breakfast at a local restaurant. During the course of our conversation, he complained to us about how you were going after him, trying to bring him down. Then he warned me, “Bill, he told me that you’re next on his list. He’s going to be coming after you.” I braced myself emotionally for the predicted onslaught, but it never came. Now I know why. The fact that after 20 long years, you should reach out to me suggests that you are still open to Christian belief.
So in answer to your question (I hope I don’t louse this up!), I should say, “Yes, absolutely, it would have been ‘epistemically responsible for [you] to get down on [your] knees in that moment and accept Jesus.’” That’s because I am not an evidentialist about Christian belief, i.e., one who thinks that Christian belief is rational only if it is based on arguments. Rather as Alvin Plantinga has explained, there are many beliefs we hold which are properly basic, that is, not based on argument, and yet we are perfectly rational and warranted in doing so. For such properly basic beliefs are also among the deliverances of reason. Therefore, it is perfectly responsible epistemically to accept such properly basic beliefs; more than that, as I say, they can be warranted for us and so constitute knowledge. These sorts of properly basic beliefs are grounded in experience and are rationally held unless and until we have some overriding defeater of them.
Now in the case of Christian belief, God does not abandon us to our own devices, to work out by our own cleverness and ingenuity whether or not Christian belief is true. Rather by his Holy Spirit he seeks us out, convicting us of our sin and drawing us to himself. Jesus said, “No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him” and “When I am lifted up from the earth, I will draw all men to myself” (John 6.44; 12.32). It is up to us whether we freely respond to his drawing upon our hearts or whether we harden our hearts towards God.
I think that in that moment in which you inexplicably found yourself open to Christian belief, it was the Holy Spirit working through Jan’s words and actions to draw you to himself. This is not just a matter of feelings. Although the experience of the Holy Spirit is subjective, just as the experience of the external world is subjective, the object of that experience is no less real and objective than is the external world.
So had you responded at that moment, “Please lead me in the sinner’s prayer to commit my life to Christ,” I should have been thrilled for Jan to have led you in such a prayer. You don’t need to have all your questions and objections answered in order to rationally place your faith in Christ in response to the Holy Spirit’s drawing. Indeed, I have argued that the inner witness of the Holy Spirit can be an intrinsic defeater-defeater, overwhelming, if not refuting, the alleged defeaters brought against Christian belief. This is all laid out in the chapter on faith and reason in the third edition of my book Reasonable Faith.
In general, what skeptics (or better, seekers) and believers need to understand about Christian belief is that this quest is not a purely evidential exercise. It needs to be approached with a genuine openness to God and deep humility. “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble” (James 4.6). The skeptic who folds his arms and says, “OK, convince me!” is not apt to come to Christian faith.
Personally, if I were you, I should try to suppress my intellectual doubts, in the same way that someone who doubts the existence of the external world or the objectivity of moral values should suppress those doubts. These doubts are self-destructive, preventing you from embracing God’s life-giving presence and miring you in the hopelessness and futility of an atheistic worldview. There is nothing epistemically virtuous about being a skeptic driven by doubts. It’s not really all that difficult to think that one’s doubts are not probative, when you think about all the hyper-intelligent people like Alvin Plantinga, Robert Adams, William Alston, Peter van Inwagen, and a host of others who are committed Christian believers. It also deserves to be said, Steve, that you need not be a Molinist in order to be a Christian! Indeed, in the list above neither Adams nor van Inwagen is a Molinist! So you need not suppress your doubts about Molinism in order to become a Christian. For the rest you may cry out like the man who came to Jesus in Mark 9.24: “Lord, I believe! Help Thou my unbelief!”
I hope that my reply is helpful, Steve. I shared your letter with Jan, and she sends you a warm hug! She also said to advise you not to turn on the television until you understand perfectly how it works!
- William Lane Craig